Don't You Know What You're Worth?

Recently, I have been struggling with the realization that not everyone, no matter how “healthy” their families seem to be, has been raised with the same understanding of the significance that our bodies and souls have. I grew up in a Christian environment, yes, but I also went to school in a non-Christian school and played on teams and in bands that were also non-Christian. I wasn’t naive to the fact that being Christian held different standards and different morals than the rest of the world, but still, there were morals.  I was however, too young to realize how empty the people around me were. I believed that they still were confident in who they were, what they wanted to do and be… I honestly believed that they were more confident in who they were than I was.  

Now, several years later, I’ve been through quite a lot to reach a point of understanding who I truly am and what that means for my life. And in the last months my focus has started to shift from what it means to me, to what it means for others. 

Do others know how significant their lives are? 

Where do they find their identity? 

Do they know why? 

Where is the rest of the world finding their worth? 

What do they seek after? 

Are they really confident in themselves? 

Who is out there struggling like I was? 

How can I be someone to help those that are lost?

1 Thes. 4:3-5 - “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God.”

For awhile now my heart has been so heavy for how my generation is so lost in this “hook-up culture” and this mentality of “I’ll do whatever (and whoever) I want, because I can”. It’s sickening and it makes me heartbroken for all these people who have fallen for this enormous lie. It’s like Satan set up this projection or hologram of "sexual freedom without chains or emotional attachments” and underneath it he dug a giant pit of darkness that is nearly impossible to get out of on our own. And one by one our world has walked into this illusion believing the hologram to be real and they fall into this dark pit of confusion. There’s so many people down there and it overwhelms me to think of how to help them; of how to make them see they NEED help. The ones that really crush me are the ones that I know have made a decision. The ones that were offered a life of hope and holiness but chose to walk into this false sensation of “freedom” and to leave the idea of purity and godliness behind. The reality is that I can’t help all these people I see around me that are lost. I can pull at them but they don’t respond. I can yell at them but they don’t hear me. I can try to show them scripture but they’re not watching me. All I can do is pray. Pray that God will reveal Himself to them. But what about the people who don’t even know that there is a choice? About the people that don’t even know that their lives, their bodies, their souls have any significance or meaning at all?

I am currently surrounded by countless young girls who have been raised in broken homes, with the belief that you’re not good enough until a guy loves you. Broken homes that have taught them that dad’s have no obligation to their families, that love is nonexistent, but lust and passion is. Homes that have taught them that if they want their lives to have meaning then they need to work for a guy to find them interesting enough, sexy enough… willing enough. So many girls are giving the most precious things they have to offer in return for some kind of self worth or meaning in life and it is so sad. 

So for the girls and women who are reading this right now, I beg you to remember where you came from and who created you. You have a heavenly Father that will love you far, far more than any other boy, man, friendship, or anyone else ever can. I know that your family may have taught you that you will never be good enough for them, but you don’t have to work for your family’s approval. I know that everything in this world tells you that the last thing you need is to be alone, but with God you are never alone. You may not feel the immediate warmth like from a kiss, but you don’t feel the void afterwards either because God doesn’t come and go. God is always present. You don’t need to call him to come over or beg him stay. He doesn’t have better things to be doing… He will never set you aside because of the ways that you fall short. He wants nothing more than for you to accept that He is going to be there for you through your best and worst days. That HE will love you through everything you do. But He asks you to acknowledge that He sees you as the most valuable thing on this earth. You are His temple, you are something to be treasured, to be honored and to never be taken for granted. He will fight for you. He’s already died and conquered death for you. 

1 Cor. 3:16/17 - “Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.”

Whether it is a kiss or something more, I wish I knew how to tell these girls how important this part of who they are is and that what they have to give is cherished and sacred. I wish I knew how to tell girls that finding a boyfriend isn't going to change anything inside of you. We are all made with a hole to fill. We try to fill it with countless things, but nothing will ever fill it like Jesus can. Stop giving yourselves to people who aren't going to treat you and love you like you deserved to be loved!